“We want our children to grow up feeling loved and nurtured by both of us and without a sense that their parents are angry with one another or conducting a quiet war behind the scenes. We want to continue to work as a team in raising our boys, to share in the major decisions, to support one another and to share in the traditions and celebrations we have established. We want as little change for our boys as possible.”
Later, when the couple gets stuck trying to divide a particularly coveted asset, their collaborative team goes back to their mission statement, revisiting the couple’s longterm goals, to help them come up with a creative solution both parties feel good about.
The film beautifully illustrates how the Collaborative process works and why it benefits the couples who use it. Click here to watch A Safe Place.
Where were you the moment you knew your marriage was over? Huff Post Divorce put together a great little video featuring clips from a “Moment I Knew” meetup event in Tribeca, New York City. On Tuesday, April 5, groups gathered in New York and Los Angeles to share stories about the moment they knew their marriage was really over. From Huff Post Divorce:
This short video gives a little glimpse into the evening’s entertainment and while it certainly doesn’t make light of divorce, it does remind us that the old adage is sometimes true: “We’ll laugh about this later.”
Very often the first question a divorce lawyer hears is, “How much is this going to cost?” It’s an important question, and Certified Family Law Specialist Ron Supancic answers it in this short informative video.
In this episode of Loving Reorganization, Certified Family Law Specialist Ron Supancic and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Terrie Frost Supancic interview Sharon Baker, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Divorce Coach, and Child Specialist with over twenty years of experience in psychiatric social work, stress management, premarital seminars, and more. Also interviewed in this episode is Ron Anfuso, a Certified Public Accountant and Certified Divorce Financial Advisor with extensive experience analyzing the financial and tax aspects of divorce cases. Both Ms. Baker and Mr. Anfuso are both founding members of A Better Divorce, a south bay organization comprised of divorce professionals who are committed to helping families have a better divorce. Watch the video below and leave a comment to let us know what you think!
In this video, Ron Supancic, Certified Family Law Specialist and collaborative divorce lawyer, talks about how couples can prevent divorce before they get married.
This is about real families. Especially in this economy! There is not enough money [to pay for traditional litigation]. But people are going to get divorced regardless of how much money there is and we have an ethical obligation to preserve the family assets and to preserve the good will that these parents need to have going forward. — Regina DeMeo, Family Law Attorney
In November of 1997 Ron was invited to a collaborative law program hosted by the International Alliance of Holistic Lawyers. Known as the Raging Bull of Los Angeles, Ron thought that “collaborative law” sounded crazy. Always open to new ideas, however hokey they may be, he attended the program anyway. There he met Stu Webb, one of the founders of collaborative law, and his perception of family law and how couples divorce was changed forever.
In this video from Cutting Edge Law Mr. Webb, the father of collaborative divorce himself, talks about how he went from hating his job as a divorce lawyer, to pioneering a whole new approach to divorce.
“It takes two or three years to process the emotional agenda (of divorce) and lawyers who aren’t trained in this, that don’t understand this, are adding gasoline to the fire when they align with the emotional agendas of their clients. A lot of transference and counter-transference takes place. The lawyers bring their own personal agendas to the case…
What we’re learning now is that divorce is really a mental health issue, more than it is anything else. If we can bring mental health professionals into the equation early on, we can make a huge difference in terms of saving time, saving money and more importantly, protecting children.”
– Ron Supancic, as interviewed by Karyn Foley during a 2007 Calabasas Author’s Night.
Mary Anne Loughlin and Patrick Greenlaw interview Ron Supancic for CNN’s DayWatch in 1991. The topic? Divorce and property settlement in California. There’s even a reference to the old classic film, War of the Roses. Check it out!
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