Don’t forget! This Saturday, June 11 is Breakfast with Ron & Robert: Second Saturday Divorce Workshop. This month’s speakers include Attorney Robert Borsky, James E. Walton, Ph.D., and Pete Collins, CFP. You’ll learn about the legal divorce, the emotional divorce, and the financial divorce. You’ll be able to ask questions and get answers. Register before 4 p.m. this Friday, June 10 and get 50% off the registration fee. Register online by clicking HERE or call us toll free at (888) 852-9961.
The Law Collaborative is getting very busy! To celebrate our spring relocation, we are planning some great workshops and community events. On our calendar so far are A Woman’s Journey to Financial Independence presented by Irene Smith, MBA, CPA, CFP®, CDFA™ of Smith Financial Management and featuring guest speaker Tyler Bain, Regional Vice President of Curian Capital, LLC. Also presented by Irene Smith will be Wine Tasting and Real Estate, and Retirement Illusions. We’re planning family law seminars as well, featuring Dr. James Walton and attorneys Ron Supancic, Pourya Keshavarzi, and Ty Supancic. And of course, we continue to host our popular Second Saturday Divorce Workshop on the second Saturday of every month.
For registration info, check our events page. You can also sign up for our bi-monthly newsletter for regular updates on upcoming events. We hope to see you soon!
Today’s guest post is by James E. Walton, Ph.D. Dr. Walton will be a featured speaker at the Second Saturday Divorce Workshop June 11, 2011, where he will discuss the emotional divorce and how to help your children cope with the split.
HOW MEN HEAL FROM A BREAKUP
By James E. Walton, Ph.D.
Men pride themselves on feeling powerful, competent and effective in their world. They receive a sense of fulfillment in feeling successful and doing well. Men take great pride in being independent and self-sufficient.
Then, they fall in love. They allow themselves to be vulnerable to another, they get close and sometimes they end up getting hurt and their hearts get broken.
Surprisingly, men generally are the first to fall in love and the last to fall out of it. Men have more difficulty handling their emotions than women because they have been trained to be independent so they develop fewer skills for handling their emotions. They become emotionally overwhelmed easily and demonstrate it by shutting off their emotions and withdrawing, or going into denial. All of this is a bid to cut themselves off from those overwhelming feelings of hurt and pain.
In the process, those feelings lie dormant and are never healed. If they don’t heal those feelings, they don’t allow themselves to fall in love again and they’ll miss out on one of the most rewarding, healing and satisfying experiences in their lives; that of falling in love again.
When men are in pain from a break up, they go right into feeling mode and become overwhelmed by those feelings resulting in shut down, paralysis, withdraw or angry bitterness. Men cannot make good decisions for themselves or anyone else under those conditions.
It’s best for them to throw themselves into an activity or project that they love doing. While they’re doing the activity they love they’re also processing the painful feelings of a break up and this can contribute greatly to the healing of those feelings.
Dr. James E. Walton, Ph.D. is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist with a private practice in Sherman Oaks. Log onto his website at LAtherapist.com or call 818-753-4865.
Just a quick reminder that our next Second Saturday Divorce Workshop is this Saturday, May 14 at our new office in Woodland Hills. Register before 4 p.m. Friday, May 13 and save 50% on the registration fee. Register today by calling (888) 852-9961 or register online at TheLawCollaborative.com.
There are many different ways to get a divorce. Unfortunately, most people know few, if any, of them. Our legal system has been designed for battle, so we hire lawyers slick as knives and we cut each other until we are bloodied and broken. But how does that help? How do you heal from a wound cut so deep?
The fact is that divorce does not have to leave your client bloodied and broken. Divorce can be an opportunity for growth. You have the opportunity to help your clients choose which kind of divorce they want to have.
If you’ve been thinking about expanding your practice to include family law or collaborative law, our Second Saturday Divorce Workshop is the first step. Over the course of four hours, you’ll hear from a licensed mental health practitioner who will prepare you to better manage the emotional agendas of divorcing clients, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst who will provide vital information that will help your clients make better informed financial decisions during their divorce, and a Certified Family Law Specialist with over forty years of experience who will teach you how to protect your client in court, what the guidelines for spousal and child support are, how the legal divorce process works, and how to transform your divorce practice into a collaborative divorce practice.
Our next workshop is Saturday, May 14, from 8:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. Register by 4:00 p.m. Friday, May 13 and save 50% on the registration fee. To register now, call (888) 852-9961 or visit TheLawCollaborative.com. They’re your kids, it’s your money, it should be your choice.
Best wishes,
Ron Supancic, CFLS and Robert Borsky, Esq.
Partners at The Law Collaborative, LLP
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If you were filing for a divorce thirty years ago, you didn’t have a whole lot of options. Certain laws favored mom, certain laws favored dad. You had to prove there was reasonable cause for the divorce and if the judge thought your reason wasn’t good enough, you didn’t get your divorce. Things worked a certain way and there wasn’t much you could do about it.
Today, we have lots of options. We can mediate or arbitrate, we can collaborate or litigate, we can Rent a Judge and get divorced at the Four Seasons or sit at our kitchen table and work it out over coffee and cookies. Unfortunately, most people have no idea there are so many options. Our legal system has been designed for battle, so we hire lawyers slick as knives and we cut each other until we are each bloodied and broken. But what is the point of that? How does that help? How do you heal from a wound cut so deep?
The fact is this: Divorce does not have to leave you bloodied and broken. You can have a divorce where you emerge on the other side with your eyes opened wide to the possibilities of new life. Where you come out standing with your shoulders back and your chin up. It’s up to you. You get to choose which divorce you have; the one with all the blood and gore, or the one where you come out standing straight and strong.
Somebody you know, somebody you love is in the crisis of their life. They need to know the information that we offer in this workshop. Please forward this information to your friends, your family, or your professional colleagues who are in crisis this minute.
This Saturday, February 12, 2011, The Law Collaborative is hosting the Second Saturday Divorce Workshop at our office in Woodland Hills. Over breakfast and coffee, participants will hear from a veteran family law attorney, a financial expert, and a mental health professional. The setting is intimate, questions are answered, and concerns are addressed.
Register today and receive 50% off the registration fee. To register online visit TheLawCollaborative.com or email your name, contact information, and payment information to Info@TheLawCollaborative.com. To register over the phone, call us toll free at (888) 852-9961. For more information about the Second Saturday Divorce Workshop, visit RonandRobertonDivorce.com.
Best wishes,
Ron Supancic, CFLS and Robert Borsky, Esq.
Partners at The Law Collaborative, LLP
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Somebody you know, somebody you love is in the crisis of their life. They need to know the information that we offer in this workshop. Please share this information with your friends, your family, your professional colleagues who are in crisis this minute.
On the second Saturday of every month The Law Collaborative hosts a Divorce Workshop at our office in Woodland Hills. Over breakfast and coffee, participants hear from a veteran family law attorney, a financial expert, and a mental health professional. The setting is intimate, questions are answered, and concerns are addressed.
Register today and receive 50% off the registration fee. To register online visit TheLawCollaborative.com/SecondSaturday.htm or email your name, contact information, and payment information to Info@TheLawCollaborative.com. To register over the phone, call us toll free at (888) 852-9961.
Best wishes for a Happy, Healthy New Year,
Ron Supancic and Robert Borsky,
Partners at The Law Collaborative, LLP
Visit our blog at RonandRobertonDivorce.com
Subscribe to Ron and Robert on Divorce on iTunes
Follow us at Twitter.com/TLC_Law
Be our friend at Facebook.com/TheLawCollaborative
On the second Saturday of every month The Law Collaborative hosts a Divorce Workshop at our office in Woodland Hills. Over breakfast and coffee, participants hear from a veteran family law attorney, a financial expert, and a mental health professional. The setting is intimate, questions are answered, and concerns are addressed. This Saturday, January 8, is our last workshop at the low rate of $50. Starting in February we are raising the registration fee. However, if you register in the next 24 hours you will receive a 50% discount. That’s a $1200 value for $25. It’s our way of saying “thank you” for trusting us with your legal concerns.
Register today by calling our toll free number (888)852-9961 or email info@thelawcollaborative.com.
